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The Mayonnaise Jar - when things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar.........
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, without saying a word, he picked up the very large and empty mayonnaise jar that was in front of him and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a small box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes".
The professor then produced two glasses of water from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things, your God, your family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favourite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car.
The sand is everything else - the small stuff.
"You see, if you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there's no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you'll never have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out for nice romantic meals..
There will always be time to clean the house and put those pictures up in the
lounge, or other similar things that you've been meaning to do for ages. "Take
care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
Building a positive attitude - what do you do when you want to change for the better but find yourself getting stuck in negative thought patterns, always expecting the worst? It's a common mind-set and happens to us all occasionally. The problem happens when you decide you've had enough of this kind of thinking but it has become so much of a habit it proves very difficult to change. As far as the law of attraction goes, that which you think about expands. Negative thoughts have a tendency to multiply, take hold and take over, sabotaging your efforts to change
However, the good news, is that turning negative thought patterns into positive ones is a real possibility. It just takes some awareness and a bit of practice, patience and persistence by focusing on thoughts that are better than the negative ones until the positive thoughts in turn begin to expand and take over.
Here are some actions you can take on a daily basis to build a positive attitude:
Start to develop your self-awareness. Negative thoughts often form below your conscious level of awareness. You get so used to them being in your head that you hardly notice anymore. To turn the tide of negativity, you need to develop a deeper level of self-awareness. Notice where you are putting your focus. Catch your negative thoughts. Check yourself several times a day. Pay attention first to how you feel. If you're feeling negative, irritable, pessimistic or stressed, then choose a thought that feels better, or change your focus to something that uplifts you.
Now that you are aware of them you can challenge and change the negative thoughts. Believe it or not, it's fairly easy to do, with a little willpower and concentration. For example, if you find yourself feeling doubtful about being able to finish your work on time, you might engage in a bit of self-talk like this: "Okay, so I'm feeling a bit stressed right now, but deep down I know everything is okay. I'm strong, smart and capable. I'll relax and do my best and everything will work out fine." What you say to yourself with your inner voice silently governs everything you do and ultimately how well you do it. Even though nothing has changed in your outer circumstances, this type of inner self-talk can result in you thinking and feeling more positively.
Work daily on developing a general positive expectation habit. Each day when you wake up, change the inner voice that is inside your head. Affirm confidently, "Today is going to be a great day! Everything will be easy and enjoyable!" Imagine how that feels. Putting emotion into your affirmations makes them more powerful.
Instead of seeing something as an obstacle or problem, see it as an exciting challenge or an opportunity to learn and grow. Perception is 99% of the game! If you work at shifting the way you look at the experiences of your life, you'll be surprised at how quickly your negative thought habits will dissolve. We are always attracting into our lives more of where we are in our current state of being. When you are positive you have happy thoughts, say positive things, do happy and positive things, attracting happy and positive people, and happy and positive circumstances and your reality is happy. On the other hand, when you're in a negative state of anger, for example, you think angry thoughts, say angry things, take angry actions and your whole experience is that the whole world is angry.
The more you change your focus towards emphasizing the positive, the more you empower yourself and before you know it, you'll be naturally enjoying a much better and more satisfying quality of life.
Depression - very often, depression is the reaction to a stressful
situation, such as loss of a job, a divorce or death of someone close. In such
cases, it is very important to eat nutrient-dense foods and take extra care of
the immune system, otherwise resistance to disease could be lowered. Equally,
the advice about counteracting the effects of stress in the section on this page
about anxiety and panic attacks should be helpful. If depression is deep, then
assistance must be sought quickly from your doctor or a qualified counsellor.
Hyperactivity - the prevalence of sweets and soft drinks in vending
machines and at check-out points in supermarkets are a real menace to parents who
are trying to encourage their youngsters to eat healthily. Sugar and artificial
colourings and other additives affect certain mechanisms in the central nervous
system, resulting in behavioural problems in children, especially hyperactivity.
The child is unlikely to be able to concentrate or sit still, is always restless
and maybe aggressive and easily frustrated. It's very important to resist
refined, processed and junk foods and drinks totally, and switch to a wholefood diet, but
even so, it may be some months before a real improvement is noticed, but is well
Epilepsy - epileptic fits are caused by an electrical
disturbance in certain neurons. They can be very dramatic and frightening to
witness as the sufferer collapses unconscious on to the floor and then goes into
convulsions. In such cases obstacles should be moved out of the way to avoid
injury and the patient laid on his or her side so that the tongue is not
Note that evening primrose oil should not be taken by epileptics as it may very occasionally trigger fits.
Since hypoglycaemics are more susceptible to epilepsy, it's crucial that they follow a natural diet, without any colourings, preservatives or additives, if you follow any of the menus on the Healthy Diets, from one of the links further down below, you will be giving yourself the best chance.
Migraine and other headaches - migraine sufferers, when having a migraine
attack, usually experience their complexion turning deathly white and breaking
out in a sweat. They often complain of flashing lights and severe pain which nothing
can alleviate except prolonged rest. Sometimes, the migraine lasted for several
days and was extremely debilitating. Any noise can make the symptoms of migraine
even worse, so best to keep everything quiet at this stage.
Other food intolerances can also provoke migraine headaches and the patient
needs to go on an exclusion diet to discover what these are (see the 'Allergies'
link below). Apart from the above foods, tea, coffee, cola and alcohol (in
particular red wine) must be cut out, also sugar and any food additives. Coffee
actually prevents the brain's own natural pain-relieving hormones from working
effectively. Other suspects can be wheat or milk, or even citrus fruits or
bananas. It makes sense not to risk smoking.
Anxiety and panic attacks - Enid had always been highly strung, but after her husband left her, her anxiety became all-consuming. Her waking life became full of dread. Each time she got into the car she was convinced she would have an accident, and whenever she left the house she imagined it being invaded by burglars. Shopping became a real nightmare. One day, as she was wheeling a trolley around the supermarket, she was overwhelmed with a terrible sense of impending doom. The packets on the shelves blurred into a crazy jumble of colours and her chest felt constricted so that she could scarcely catch her breath. She felt dizzy and clung on to the trolley for support, convinced that she would collapse on to the floor and die of heart failure. A kind shop assistant noticed that she looked ill and found her a chair, but it was a good quarter of an hour before she recovered sufficiently to stand up again. After that, she became terrified of going out on her own, fearful that another panic attack would overtake her and that she would be unable to reach home.
Such attacks are the result of an over-stressed system and it is exceedingly important to identify and reduce sources of strain, at the same time practising deep physical relaxation and meditation to lower overall stress levels. A counsellor can help with difficult problems. It's also important to understand that a panic attack will not of itself cause death and that any chest pain is generally the result of tension. Knowing this, will at least lessen the fear of an attack. Nevertheless it's sensible to see a doctor for a check-up.
When the body goes into a state of alarm from some sort of stress signal such as fear, adrenaline and other hormones are released into the bloodstream which increase the heart rate and make extra energy available for instant action. Modern life offers little in the way of physical outlets for stress, however, since you can rarely run away from your problems, nor should you attack people who cause you the anxiety. So the stress becomes directed inwards and physical ailments can result from the damage, some very serious. Because the metabolic rate increases, the demand for nutrients goes up, especially for ascorbic acid, also potassium, phosphorus and calcium. Vitamin C can be protective against stress and a supplement of at least 500mg daily is recommended. It's prudent to eat a very healthy diet (see the Healthy Diets from the link further below) when under any strain.
When dealing with anxiety and panic attacks, certain nutrients can have an excellent calming effect, especially vitamin B1 (thiamin) and pantothenic acid - wheatgerm and brewer's yeast are therefore good anti-anxiety foods. Magnesium and calcium in a one-to-two ratio will help you feel more relaxed and a combined supplement should be of assistance. Soya products, nuts, dark-green vegetables, whitebait and whole sardines, cottage cheese and figs are all good foods for anyone suffering from anxiety or stress.
It is advisable to not consume any caffeine-containing beverages, as these will increase anxiety. Drink chamomile tea instead which has a mildly tranquillizing effect. Although alcohol is often taken to mitigate stress, it merely depletes the system even further and adds to the overall burden.
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