The Mayonnaise Jar -
when things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day
are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar.........
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of
him. When the class began, without saying a word, he picked up the very large and empty
mayonnaise jar that was in front of him and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the
students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured
them into the jar. He
shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf
balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.
They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a small box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if
the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes".
The professor then produced two glasses of water from under the table and
poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty
space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things, your God, your family, your
children, your health, your friends, and your favourite passions -
things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your
life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house,
and your car.
The sand is everything else - the small stuff.
"You see, if you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there's no
room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you'll
have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your
children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out for nice
There will always be time to clean the house and put those pictures up in the
lounge, or other similar things that you've been meaning to do for ages. "Take
care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
50 Ways Happier, Healthier and More Successful People Live on Their Own Terms
1. Stop consuming caffeine - although people think they perform better on caffeine, the truth is, they really
don’t. Actually, we’ve become so dependent on caffeine that we use it to simply
get back to our status quo. When we’re off it, we underperform and become
Isn’t this absurd?
With healthy eating, sleeping and exercise, your body will naturally produce far
more and better energy than caffeine could ever provide. Give it up and see what
happens. You will probably get withdrawal headaches. But after a few days,
you’ll feel amazing.
2. Pray or meditate morning, midday and night - in a recent interview at the Genius Network Mastermind event, Joe Polish asked
Tony Robbins what he does to get focused. “Do you meditate? What do you do?” Joe
“I don’t know that I meditate. I don’t know that I want to meditate and think
about nothing,” Tony responded, “My goal is clarity.”
Instead of full-on meditation, Tony has a morning routine that includes several
breathing exercises and visualization techniques that get him to a state of
clarity and focus. For me, I use prayer and pondering (my version of meditation)
as the same vehicle.
Whatever your approach, the goal should be clarity and focus. What do you want
to be about today?
What few things matter most during the next 24 hours?
I’ve gotten the best results as my morning prayer and meditation are
motivational, my afternoon prayer and meditation are strategic and my evening
prayer and meditation are evaluative and educational.
3. Read one book per week - ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and
learning. It is common for the world’s most successful people to read at least
one book per week. They are constantly learning.
I can easily get through one audiobook per week by just listening during my
commute to school and while walking on campus. Taking even 15–30 minutes every
morning to read uplifting and instructive information changes you. It puts you
in the zone to perform at your highest.
Over a long enough period of time, you will have read hundreds of books. You’ll
be knowledgeable on several topics. You’ll think and see the world differently.
You’ll be able to make more connections between different topics.
Reference #19 on this list if you feel you’re “too busy” to read one book per
week. There are methods to make this task extremely easy.
4. Write in your journal five minutes per day - this habit will change your life. Your journal will:
Clear your emotions serving as your personal therapist
Detail your personal history
Enhance your creativity
Ingrain and enhance your learning
Help you get clarity on the future you want to create
Accelerate your ability to manifest your goals
Increase your gratitude
Improve your writing skills
Five minutes per day is more than enough. Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism,
recommends writing far less than you want to — only a few sentences or
paragraphs at most. This will help you avoid burnout.
5. Marry your best friend - for all the productivity and success advice I’ve read, shaped and marketed for
dozens of authors in the last decade, I’ve never really seen someone come out
and say: find yourself a spouse who complements and supports you and makes you
better. Ryan Holiday
Research done by economists have found - even after controlling for age,
education and other demographics - that married people make 10 to 50 percent
more than single people.
Why would this be?
Being married gives you a higher purpose for being productive. You are no longer
a lone ranger, but have another person who relies on you.
Marriage also smacks you in the face with what’s really important in life. Sure,
hanging out and partying are fun. But too many people get stuck in this phase
and miss the meaning that comes from building a life with someone.
You will never find a better personal development seminar or book than marriage.
It will highlight all of your flaws and weaknesses, challenging you to become a
better person than you ever thought possible.
6. Make a bucket list and actively knock items off - most people have it backwards
- they design their ambitions around their life,
rather than designing their life around their ambitions.
What are the things you absolutely must do before you die?
Then design your life around those things. Or as Stephen Covey explained in The
7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “Begin with the end clearly in mind.”
7. Stop consuming refined sugar - if you stop consuming sugar, your brain will radically change. Actually, study
after study is showing that refined sugar is worse for our brains than it is for
our waistlines. According to Dr. William Coda Martin, refined sugar is nothing
more than poison because it has been depleted of its life forces, vitamins and
Refined sugar has now been shown to make us cranky, make us make rash decisions,
and make us stupid.
Again, like caffeine, if you stop eating refined sugar, you will experience some
negative withdrawals. But, like any good habit, the effects of this will be seen
in the long-run. What would your health be like a year from now (or five) if you
were completely refined sugar-free?
8. Fast from all food and caloric beverages 24 hours once per week - one-day (24-hour) food fasts are a popular way to maintain health and vigor.
Fasting leverages the self-healing properties of the human body. Radical health
improvements occur when the digestive system is given rest and the organs get
ample time to repair and heal themselves.
A regular practice of fasting can:
Improve digestive efficiency
Increase mental clarity
Increase physical and mental vigor
Give a general feeling of well being
Like all the other habits, fasting gets easier with practice. I’ve been fasting
for years and it’s one of the best things I have done for my health.
Fasting is also one of the most recognized techniques in religious and spiritual
practices. I also use fasting to get spiritual clarity and refinement.
Honestly, I could go on for hours about this one. Give it a try. You’ll never be
9. Fast from the internet for 24 hours once per week - your body gets an intervention when you fast. Your mind and relationships could
use one, too. Unplug yourself from the matrix.
If you haven’t caught on already, human beings are highly addictive creatures.
We love our coffee, sugar and Internet. And these things are all great. But our
lives can be far more enhanced by using these tools in wisdom.
The purpose of the internet fast is to reconnect to yourself and your loved
ones. So, you probably shouldn’t do it the same day you do your food fast.
Because eating is one of the strongest ways to form bonds.
You’ll be blown away by how much more connected you feel to your loved ones when
you can give them your undivided attention. It may even feel awkward for a while
having a real-life conversation without looking at your phone every three
10. Stop consuming the news or reading the newspaper - although the amount of warfare and deaths by human hands are reducing globally,
you will not get that message watching televised news or reading the newspaper.
On the contrary, these media outlets have an agenda. Their goal is to appeal to
your fears by inflating extreme cases, making them seem normal and commonplace.
If they didn’t do so, their viewership would plummet. Which is why Peter
Diamandis, one of the world’s experts on entrepreneurship and the future of
innovation has said, “I’ve stopped watching TV news. They couldn’t pay me enough
You can get high quality news curated from Google News. When you detox from the
toxic filth that is public news, you’ll be startled as your worldview becomes
radically more optimistic. There is no objective reality. Instead, we live in
perceived realities and are thus responsible for the worldview we adopt.
11. Do something every day that terrifies you -
“a person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of
uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” Tim Ferriss.
But you don’t have to constantly be battling your fears. Actually, Darren Hardy
has said that you can be a coward 99.9305556 percent of the time (to be exact).
You only need to be courageous for 20 seconds at a time.
Twenty seconds of fear is all you need. If you courageously confront fear for 20
seconds every single day, before you know it, you’ll be in a different
socioeconomic and social situation.
Make that call.
Ask that question.
Pitch that idea.
Post that video.
Whatever it is you feel you want to do - do it. The anticipation of the event is
far more painful than the event itself. So just do it and end the inner
In most cases, your fears are unfounded. As Seth Godin has explained, our
comfort zone and our safety zone are not the same thing. It is completely safe
to make an uncomfortable phone call. You are not going to die. Don’t equate the
two. Recognize that most things outside your comfort zone are completely safe.
12. Do something kind for someone else daily - have I done any good in the world today? Have I helped anyone in need? Have I
cheered up the sad and made someone feel glad? If not, I have failed indeed. Has
anyone’s burden been lighter today, because I was willing to share? Have the
sick and the weary been helped on their way? When they needed my help was I
there? Will L. Thompson.
If we’re too busy to help other people, we’ve missed the mark. Taking the time
to spontaneously, as well as planned, helping other people is one of the
greatest joys in life. Helping others opens you up to new sides of yourself. It
helps you connect deeper with those you help and humanity in general. It
clarifies what really matters in life.
As Thomas Monson has said, “Never let a problem to be solved become more
important than a person to be loved.” That would truly be a failure.
13. Go to bed early and rise early - according to countless research studies, people who go to bed and rise early are better students. Harvard biologist Christoph Randler found that early
sleep/risers are more proactive and are more likely to anticipate problems and
minimize them efficiently, which leads to being more successful in business.
Other benefits of going to bed and rising early - backed by research, include:
Being a better planner
Being holistically healthier as individuals
Getting better sleep
More optimistic, satisfied and conscientious
Waking up early allows you to proactively and consciously design your day. You
can start with a morning routine that sets the tone for your whole day. You show
self-respect by putting yourself first. In your morning routine, you can
pray/meditate, exercise, listen to or read inspiring content and write in your
journal. This routine will give you a much stronger buzz than a cup of coffee.
14. Get seven-plus hours of sleep each night - let’s face it: sleep is just as important as eating and drinking water. Despite
this, millions of people do not sleep enough and experience insane problems as a
The National Sleep Foundation (NSF) conducted surveys revealing that at least 40
million Americans suffer from more than 70 different sleep disorders;
furthermore, 60 percent of adults, and 69 percent of children, experience one or
more sleep problems a few nights or more during a week.
In addition, more than 40 percent of adults experience daytime sleepiness severe
enough to interfere with their daily activities at least a few days each
month, with 20 percent reporting problem sleepiness a few days a week or more.
On the flip side, getting a healthy amount of sleep is linked to:
Increased attention and focus
Decreased fat and increased muscle mass with exercise
Decreased dependence on stimulants like caffeine
Decreased risk of getting into accidents
Decreased risk of depression
And tons more…Google it.
15. Replace warm showers with cold ones -
Tony Robbins doesn’t consume caffeine at all. Instead, he starts every morning
by jumping into a 57-degree Fahrenheit swimming pool.
Why would he do such a thing?
Cold water immersion radically facilitates physical and mental wellness. When
practiced regularly, it provides long-lasting changes to your body’s immune,
lymphatic, circulatory and digestive systems that improve the quality of your
life. It can also increase weight loss because it boosts your metabolism.
A 2007 research study found that taking cold showers routinely can help treat
depression symptoms often more effectively than prescription medications. That’s
because cold water triggers a wave of mood-boosting neurochemicals, which make
you feel happy.
To me, it increases my willpower and boosts my creativity and inspiration. While
standing with the cold water hitting my back, I practice slowing my breathing
and calming down. After I’ve chilled out, I feel super happy and inspired. Lots
of ideas start flowing and I become way motivated to achieve my goals.
16. Say “No” to people, obligations, requests, and opportunities you’re not
interested in from now on - no more yes. It’s either HELL YEAH! or no. Derek Sivers
Your 20 seconds of daily courage will most consistently involve saying “no” to
stuff that doesn’t really matter. But how could you possibly say “no” to certain
opportunities if you don’t know what you want? You can’t. Like most people,
you’ll be seduced by the best thing that comes around. Or, you’ll crumble under
other people’s agendas.
But if you know what you want, you’ll have the courage and foresight to pass up
even brilliant opportunities, because ultimately they are distractors from your
vision. As Jim Collins said in Good to Great, “A ‘once-in-a-lifetime
opportunity’ is irrelevant if it is the wrong opportunity.”
17. Say “thank you” every time you’re served by someone - it’s amazing when you meet someone who is expressively and genuinely grateful.
It’s amazing because, frankly, it’s rare.
I remember one day while working as a waiter in a restaurant as a teenager.
Every time I went by a certain table, whether I was refilling waters, bringing
food, anything…the kid at the table (no more than 20 years old) graciously said
“thank you.” I even heard him from close proximity saying it to all the other
employees when they stopped by his table.
This experience had a dramatic impact on me. It was so simple what he was doing.
Yet, so beautiful. I instantly liked this person and wanted to serve him even
I could tell by how he looked in my eyes when saying “thank you” that he meant
it. It came from a place of gratitude and humility.
Interestingly, one study has found that saying “thank you,” facilitated a 66
percent increase in help offered by those serving. Although altruism is the
goal, don’t be surprised as your habit of graciously saying “thank you” turns
into even more to be thankful for.
18. Say “I love you” three-plus times a day to the most important people in your
life - according to neuroscience research, the more you express love (like gratitude),
the more other people feel love for you. Sadly, people are taught absurd
mindsets about being vulnerable and loving in relationships. Just this morning,
my wife and I had to coax and prod our three foster kids to say one nice thing
about each other, and to say they loved each other.
It took several minutes for our 8-year-old foster boy to muster the strength to
say he loved his sister. Yet, all of our kids constantly berate and belittle
You know the feeling: when you want to say “I love you,” but hold back. What a
Why do we hesitate to express our love?
Why do we hesitate to connect deeply with others?
This may be strange, but if you tell your friends and family you love them,
they’ll be blown away. I once knew a Polynesian missionary who told everyone he
loved them. It was clear he was sincere.
I asked him why he did it. What he told me changed my life. “When I tell people
I love them, it not only changes them, but it changes me. Simply by saying the
words, I feel more love for that person. I’ve been telling people all around me
I love them. They feel treasured by me. Those who know me have come to expect
it. When I forget to say it, they miss it.”
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left
undone. Harriet Beecher Stowe.
19. Consume 30 grams of protein within the first 30 minutes of waking up -
Donald Layman, professor emeritus of nutrition at the University of Illinois,
recommends consuming at least 30 grams of protein for breakfast. Similarly, Tim
Ferriss, in his book, The 4-Hour Body, also recommends 30 grams of protein 30
minutes after waking up.
According to Tim, his father did this and lost 19 pounds in one month.
Protein-rich foods keep you full longer than other foods because they take
longer to leave the stomach. Also, protein keeps blood-sugar levels steady,
which prevents spikes in hunger.
Eating protein first decreases your white carbohydrate cravings. These are the
types of carbs that get you fat. Think bagels, toast and donuts.
Tim makes four recommendations for getting adequate protein in the morning:
Eat at least 40 percent of your breakfast calories as protein
Do it with two or three whole eggs (each egg has about 6g protein)
If you don’t like eggs, use something like turkey bacon, organic pork bacon or
sausage or cottage cheese
Or, you could always do a protein shake with water
For people who avoid dairy, meat and eggs, there are several plant-based
proteins. Legumes, greens, nuts and seeds all are rich in protein.
20. Listen to audiobooks and podcasts on 2x speed, your brain will change faster
- listening to audiobooks at normal speed is so three years ago. There is a
trend—particularly in Silicon Valley—to listen to audiobooks at 150 or 200
percent called “speed listening.”
In 2010, the tech blog GigaOm suggested “speed-listening to podcasts” as an
overall time-saving technique. Software called FasterAudio promises to “cut your
audio learning time in half.”
If you want to get hardcore, a particularly useful tool is Overcast, a podcast-playback
app with a feature called Smart Speed. Smart Speed isn’t about simply playing
audio content at 150 or 200 percent of the standard rate; but actually attempts
algorithmically to remove fluff (e.g., dead air, pauses between sentences,
intros and outros) that bulks up the play time of audio content.
Use this technique and you’ll be consuming as much information as you once
21. Decide where you’ll be in five years and get there in two - how can you achieve your 10-year plan in the next six months? Peter Thiel
There is always a faster way than you originally conceive. Actually,
goal-setting can slow your progress and diminish your potential if you rely too
heavily upon it.
In an interview with Success Magazine, Tim Ferriss said that he doesn’t have
five or ten year goals. Instead, he works on “experiments” or projects for a six
to 12 week period of time. If they do extremely well, the possible doors that
could open are endless. Tim would rather play to the best possibilities than get
stuck on one track. He says this approach allows him to go drastically farther
than he could ever plan for.
22. Remove all non-essentials from your life (start with your closet) - you cannot overestimate the unimportance of practically everything. Greg McKeown
Most of the possessions you own, you don’t use. Most of the clothes in your
closet, you don’t wear. Get rid of them. They are sucking energy from your life.
Also, they are dormant value waiting to be exchanged for dollars.
Getting rid of underutilized resources is like injecting motivation and clarity
into your bloodstream. While all of that untapped energy gets removed, a new
wave of positive energy comes into your life. You can use that energy in more
useful and productive ways.
23. Consume a tablespoon of coconut oil once per day - coconut oil is one of the healthiest foods on the planet.
Here are 7 reasons you should eat coconut oil every single day:
It boosts HDL (good) cholesterol and simultaneously blocks LDL (bad) cholesterol
It has special fats that help you burn more fat, have more energy, and maintain
It fights aging and keeps you looking and feeling young
It reduces fever and acts as an anti-inflammatory
It is antibacterial and thus wards off possible illnesses
It improves memory and cognitive functioning (even for people with Alzheimer’s)
It can boost testosterone for men and balance healthy hormones level for both
men and women
Coconut oil is a healthy alternative to caffeine. Eating a small amount will
give you a shot of energy without the side-effects.
24. Buy a juicer and juice a few times per week - juicing is an incredible way to get loads of vitamins and nutrients from fruits
and vegetables. These nutrients can:
Help protect against cardiovascular disease, cancer and various inflammatory
Guard against oxidative cellular damage from everyday cellular maintenance and
exposure to chemicals and pollution.
There are several approaches you can take to juicing. You can reset your body by
doing a three to 10 day juice “cleanse.” Or, you could simply incorporate juice
into your regular diet. I do both from time to time.
I always feel enormously better after juicing. Especially when I get lots of
intense greens like kale into my system.
25. Choose to have faith in something bigger than yourself, scepticism is easy -
in the timeless book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill explains that a
fundamental principle of wealth creation is having faith, which he defines as
visualization and belief in the attainment of desire.
As he famously said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can
If you don’t believe in your dreams, the chances of them happening are slim to
none. But if you can come to fully know the things you seek will occur, the
universe will conspire to make it happen.
According to Hill (see page 49 of Think and Grow Rich), here’s how that works:
“Faith is the starting point of all accumulation of riches!”
“Faith is the basis of all ‘miracles’ and mysteries that cannot be analyzed by
the rules of science!”
“Faith is the element that transforms the ordinary vibration of thought, created
by the finite mind of man, into the spiritual equivalent.”
“Faith is the only agency through which the cosmic force of Infinite
Intelligence can be harnessed and used.”
“Faith is the element, the ‘chemical’ which, when mixed with prayer, gives one
direct communication with Infinite Intelligence.”
Like expressing love, in our culture, many have become uncomfortable with ideas
like faith. Yet, to all of the best business minds in recent history, faith was
fundamental to their success.
26. Stop obsessing about the outcome - research has found that expectations in one’s own ability serves as a better
predictor of high performance than expectations about a specific outcome. In his
book, The Personal MBA, Josh Kaufman explains that when setting goals, your
locus of control should target what you can control (i.e., your efforts) instead
of results you can’t control (e.g., whether you get the part).
Expect optimal performance from yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
The organic output will be your highest quality work.
Put most simply: Do what is right, let the consequence follow.
27. Give at least one guilt-free hour to relaxation per day - in our quest for success, many of us have become workaholics. However,
relaxation is crucial for success. It is akin to resting between sets at the
gym. Without resting, your workout will be far less than it could have been.
Foolishly, people approach their lives like a workout without rest breaks.
Instead, they take stimulants to keep themselves going longer and longer. But
this isn’t sustainable or healthy. It’s also bad for productivity and creativity
in the short and long run.
28. Genuinely apologize to people you’ve mistreated - people make mistakes several times every single day. Sadly and hilariously, much
of the time we act like kids and blame our mistakes on external factors.
Research has found that people who don’t openly and often apologize experience
higher levels of stress and anxiety.
You don’t need that pent-up energy in your life. Make amends and let it go. It’s
not your choice if people choose to forgive you.
29. Make friends with five people who inspire you - you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Jim Rohn.
Whom you spend time with is incredibly important. Even more fundamental is: what
types of people are you comfortable around?
Your comfort level is one of the clearest indicators of your character. Are the
people you enjoy being around inspiring or degrading, hardworking or lazy?
What kinds of beliefs do you friends have?
What kinds of goals are they pursuing?
How much money do they make?
What does their health look like?
All of these things dramatically impact you. And it is one of the most painful
experiences in the world to become uncomfortable around people who have long
been your friends. When you grow and evolve and long for more, you’ll begin
seeking a different crowd to surround yourself with.
Misery loves company. Don’t let them hold you back. Move on but never detach
from the love you have for those people.
30. Save 10 percent or more of your income -
I would have saved 10 percent automatically from my paycheck by direct deposit
into a savings account, earning the best possible interest compounded daily. I
would have also disciplined myself to deposit 10 percent of any additional money
from gifts, refunds or other earned income. I would have bought a small house
outright with the money I had saved (instead of renting an apartment for over 30
years). I would have found a job that I loved and devoted my life to it. At
least you could be happy even if you were not where you wanted to be
financially. Hope this helps someone out there. D. Lorinser
Tithing yourself is a core principle of wealth creation. Most people pay other
people first. Most people live above their means.
31. Tithe or give 10 percent of your income away - one gives freely, yet grows all the richer. Proverbs 11:24
Many of the wealthiest people in the world attribute their healthy financial
life and abundance to giving some of it away.
Most people are trying to accumulate as much as they can. However, a natural
principle of wealth creation is generosity. As Joe Polish has said, “The world
gives to the givers and takes from the takers.”
From a spiritual perspective, everything we have is God’s (or the Earth’s). We
are merely stewards over our possessions. When we die, we don’t take our money
with us. So why hoard it?
As you give generously and wisely, you’ll be stunned by the increases in your
earning potential. You’ll develop traits needed for radical wealth creation.
32. Drink 64–100 ounces of water per day - human beings are mostly water. As we drink healthy amounts of water, we have
smaller waistlines, healthier skin and better functioning brains. Actually, as
we drink enough water, it’s safe to say we’re better in every way.
It’s a no-brainer. If you’re not drinking the healthy amount of water each day,
you should critically assess your priorities in life.
33. Buy a small place rather than rent - unless you live in a big city (which many do), I’m baffled how many
people pay outlandish amounts on rent each month.
When my wife and I moved to Clemson to begin graduate school, we did a lot of
front end work to ensure we’d be able to buy a home. What’s shocking is that our
mortgage payment is far less than most of our friend’s rent payments. By the end
of our four years here in Clemson, we’ll have earned several thousand dollars in
equity and even more in appreciation. Conversely, many of our friends are simply
dumping hundreds of dollars into someone else’s pockets every month.
Paying rent is like working hourly. You get money while you’re on the clock.
When you’re not on the clock, you get no money. Earning equity is like having
residual income. Every month you pay down your mortgage, you actually keep that
money. So you’re not “spending to live” like most people do. You’re living for
free while saving, often earning in appreciation.
34. Check your email and social media at least 60–90 minutes after you wake up -
most people check their email and social media immediately upon waking up. This
puts them in a reactive state for the remainder of the day. Instead of living
life on their own terms, they’d rather respond to other people’s agendas.
Hence, the importance of having a solid morning routine. When you wake up and
put yourself, not other people first, you position yourself to win before you
ever begin playing.
Private victory always precedes public victory. Stephen Covey
Make the first few hours of your morning about you, so that you can be the best
you can for other people. My morning routine consists of prayer, journal
writing, listening to audiobooks and podcasts while I workout, and taking a cold
After I’ve had an epic morning, and I’m clear on the direction of my day, I can
utilize email and social media for my benefit rather than detriment.
35. Make a few radical changes to your life each year - reinvent yourself every year. Novelty is an antidote to monotony. Jump into new
pursuits and relationships.
Try things you’ve never done before.
Have more fun.
Pursue big things you’ve been procrastinating for years.
In the past year, my wife and I went from having no kids to having three foster
kids (ages 4, 6 and 8). I’ve started blogging. I quit my job and started writing
full-time. I completely changed my diet. I’ve changed my entire daily routine.
Without question, this year has been the most transformative year of my life.
It’s taught me that you can change your whole life in one year. I plan on
changing my whole life for the better every year.
36. Define what wealth and happiness mean to you - be everything to everybody and you’ll be nothing for yourself. John Rushton
No two human beings are the same. So why should we have one standard of success?
Seeking society’s standard of success is an endless rat-race. There will always
be someone better than you. You’ll never have the time to do everything.
Instead, you recognize that every decision has opportunity cost. When you choose
one thing, you simultaneously don’t choose several others. And that’s okay.
Actually, it’s beautiful because we get to choose our ultimate ideal. We must
define success, wealth, and happiness in our own terms because if we don’t,
society will for us—and we will always fall short. We’ll always be left wanting.
We’ll always be stuck comparing ourselves and competing with other people. Our
lives will be an endless race for the next best thing. We’ll never experience
37. Change the way you think, feel and act about money - most people have an unhealthy relationship with money. It’s not necessarily
their fault; it’s what they were taught.
In order to change your financial world, you need to alter your paradigm and
feelings about money.
Here are some key beliefs the most successful people in the world have:
In a free-market economy, anyone can make as much money as they want.
Your background, highest level of education or IQ is irrelevant when it comes to
The bigger the problem you solve, the more money you make.
Expect to make lots of money. Think big: 100,000, 500,000 or why not 1
What you focus on expands. If you believe in scarcity, you’ll have little.
If you believe there is unlimited abundance, you’ll attract abundance.
When you create incredible value for others, you have the right to make as much
money as you want.
You’re not going to be discovered, saved or made rich by someone else. If you
want to be successful, you have to build it yourself.
When you develop a healthy relationship, you will have more. You won’t spend
money on the crap most people waste their money on. You’ll focus more on value
38. Invest only in industries you are informed about -
Warren Buffett doesn’t invest in technology because he doesn’t understand it.
Instead, he invests in banking and insurance. He’s not a tech guy. He invests in
what he understands.
Yet, so many people invest in things they don’t understand. I’ve made that
mistake. I once invested several thousand dollars in an overseas rice
distribution. Although the investment sounded incredible on paper, it turned out
to be a disaster.
I didn’t have the understanding to make an informed decision. I put my trust in
someone else’s hands. And no one cares about your success more than you do.
From now on, I’m going to responsibly invest in things I can make informed
39. Create an automated income source that takes care of the fundamentals - we live in unprecedented times. It has never been easier to create automated
income streams. No matter your skill-set and interests, you can put a business
in place that runs 24/7 even while you’re sleeping, sitting on the beach or
playing with your kids.
An entrepreneur is someone who works for a few years like no one will so they
can live the rest of their life like no one else can.
If you want to free up your time and energy for the things that matter most,
either invest in stuff you’re informed on (e.g., real estate, businesses, mutual
funds), or, create a business that doesn’t require you (e.g., create an online
educational course about something you’re passionate about).
40. Have multiple income streams (the more the better) - most people’s income comes from the same source. However, most wealthy people’s
income comes from multiple sources. I know people with hundreds of income
streams coming in each month.
What would happen if you set things up so you were getting income from 5 or 10
different places each month?
What if several of those were automated?
Again, with a few short years of intentional and focused work, you can have
several income streams.
41. Track at least one habit/behaviour you’re trying to improve - when performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured
and reported, the rate of improvement accelerates. Thomas Monson
Tracking is difficult. If you’ve tried it before, chances are, you quit within a
Research has repeatedly found that when behaviour is tracked and evaluated, it
It’s best to track only a few things. Maybe just one at a time.
If you want to track your diet, a fun approach is taking a picture of everything
you eat. Everything. This allows you the time to determine if you really want to
put that in your body.
So, your tracking can be creative. Do what works for you. Use a method you will
But start tracking. After you’ve made solid improvement on your desired area and
formed new habits, start tracking something else.
42. Have no more than three items on your to-do list each day - when you shift your life from day-to-day reactivity to one of creation and
purpose, your goals become a lot bigger. Consequently, your priority list
becomes smaller. Instead of doing a million things poorly, the goal becomes to
do a few things incredibly—or better yet, to do one thing better than anyone
else in the world.
If you have more than three priorities, then you don’t have any. Jim Collins.
So, instead of trying to do a million small things, what one or two things would
make the biggest impact?
Dan Sullivan, founder of Strategic Coach, explains that there are two economies:
the Economy of Hard Work and the Economy of Results.
Some people think hard work is the recipe. Others think about the most efficient
way to get a desired result.
Tim Ferriss, in his book, The 4-Hour Body, explains what he calls Minimum
Effective Dose (MED), which is simply the smallest dose that will yield a
desired result and anything past the MED is wasteful. Water boils at 100°C at
standard air pressure, it is not “more boiled” if you add more heat.
What is the fastest way to get your desired outcome?
43. Make your bed first thing in the morning - according to psychological research, people who make their bed in the morning
are happier and more successful than those who don’t. If that’s not enough,
71 percent of bed makers consider themselves happy
While 62 percent of non-bed-makers are unhappy
Bed makers are also more likely to like their jobs, own a home, exercise
regularly and feel well rested
Whereas non-bed-makers hate their jobs, rent apartments, avoid the gym, and wake
Something so simple. Yet, when you make your bed first thing in the morning, you
knock-off your first accomplishment of the day. This puts you in a mindset of
Do it! It only takes 30 seconds.
44. Make one audacious request per week (what do you have to lose?) - rainmakers generate revenue by making asks. They ask for donations. They ask for
contracts. They ask for deals. They ask for opportunities. They ask to meet with
leaders or speak to them over the phone. They ask for publicity. They come up
with ideas and ask for a few minutes of your time to pitch it. They ask for
help. Don’t let rainmaking deter you from your dream. It’s one of the barriers
to entry, and you can overcome it. Once you taste the sweet victory of a
positive response, you’ll not only become comfortable with it, you might even
enjoy it. But making asks is the only way to bring your dream to life. Ben Arment
I got into graduate school way after applications were due because I asked.
I’ve gotten free NBA tickets by asking a few players I saw at a hotel.
I’ve gotten my work published on high tier outlets because I ask.
Very few things in life are just randomly given to you as an adult. In most
cases, you need to earn it and/or ask for it.
Yet, there are many opportunities currently available to everyone if they would
muster the courage and humility to ask.
The entire crowdfunding industry is based on making asks.
Start making bold and audacious asks. What’s the worst that could happen? They
What’s the best that could happen?
When you don’t ask, you lose by default. And you’ll never know the opportunities
you missed out on.
Don’t sell yourself short. Ask that beautiful girl on a date. Ask for that raise
or big opportunity at work. Ask people to invest in your idea.
Put yourself out there. You’ll be blown away by what happens.
45. Be spontaneously generous with a stranger at least once per month - life isn’t all about what you can achieve or acquire. It’s more about who you
become and what you contribute.
Interestingly, research done at Yale has found that people are instinctively
cooperative and generous. However, if you stall and think about being helpful or
generous, you’re less likely to do it. And the longer you wait, the likelihood
of you being helpful diminishes.
So, be spontaneous. When you get the wild thought of buying the person’s food in
the car behind you, just do it. Don’t think about it.
If you’re driving down the road and see someone with car trouble off to the
side, just do it. Don’t think about it.
When you want to say “I love you,” to a loved one, just do it. Don’t think about
Paralysis by analysis is dumb. And Malcolm Gladwell explains in Blink that
snap-decisions are often far better than well-thought out ones.
46. Write and place a short, thoughtful note for someone once per day - the messages of handwritten letters impact more deeply and are remembered longer
than electronic messages. There is no comparison to this traditional form of
conversation. Handwritten messages are so powerful that people often keep these
notes for a long time. Sometimes a lifetime.
Jack Canfield has taught that writing three to five handwritten notes per day
will change your relationships. In our email world, it can seem inefficient to
handwrite and mail a letter. But relationships aren’t about efficiency.
Not only will handwriting letters change your relationships, it will change you.
Research has shown that writing by hand increases brain development and
cognition more than typing can.
Consequently, the things you write will be seared into your own memory, as well,
allowing both you and the recipient to reflect back on cherished moments.
Writing handwritten notes spices up your relationships, adding an element of
fun. It’s exciting placing kind and loving notes in random places for your loved
ones to find. Put a note under the windshield wipers of your loved one’s car to
find after a hard day’s work. Hidden, wait till they come out and watch them
from across the street. You’ll see their eyes light up and smile spread.
Other fun places include:
In the fridge
In the closet
On the computer keyboard
In their shoe
In their wallet
The mail box
Anywhere that makes the experience a surprise…
47. Become good friends with your parents - many people have horrible relationships with their parents. I once did myself.
Growing up can be tough and sometimes are parents make horrible decisions that
negatively impact us.
However, my parents have become my best friends. They are my confidants. I turn
to them for wisdom and advice. They understand me like no one else. Biology is a
Although I don’t see things the same way my parents do, I love them and respect
their viewpoints. I love working out with my dad and talking about big ideas
with my mom.
I couldn’t imagine not being close to them.
If your parents are still around, rekindle those ties or increase the flame.
You’ll find enormous joy in those relationships.
48. Floss your teeth - about 50 percent of Americans claim to floss daily. My guess is that’s a large
over-estimate. Either way, the benefits of flossing are incredible.
Doing so daily prevents gum disease and tooth loss. Everyone gets plaque, and it
can only be removed by flossing or a deep cleaning from your dentist. Plaque
buildup can lead to cavities, tooth decay, and gum disease. If left untreated,
gum disease can be a risk factor for heart disease, diabetes and a high body
Yes, not flossing can make you fat.
Not only that, but it greatly reduces bad breath.
49. Eat at least one meal with your family per day - if possible, eat a sit-down meal with your loved ones daily. It doesn’t matter
if it’s breakfast, lunch or dinner.
We’ve become so high-paced in the world that everything we do is on the go.
We’ve forgotten what it means to just be with our loved ones.
Eating together creates a sense of community like nothing else.
Teens who have fewer than three family dinners a week are 3.5 times more likely
to have abused prescription drugs and to have used illegal drugs other than
marijuana, three times more likely to have used marijuana, more than 2.5 times
more likely to have smoked cigarettes, and 1.5 times more likely to have tried
alcohol, according to the CASA report.
50. Spend time reflecting on your blessings at least once per day - gratitude is the cure-all for all the world’s problems. It has been called, “the
mother of all virtues,” by the Roman philosopher Cicero.
When you practice gratitude, your world changes. There is no objective reality.
All people perceive reality as they selectively attend to things that are
meaningful to them. Hence, some people notice the good while others notice the
Gratitude is having an abundance mindset. When you think abundantly, the world
is your oyster. There is limitless opportunity and possibility for you.
People are magnets. When you’re grateful for what you have, you will attract
more of the positive and good. Gratitude is contagious. It changes not only your
world, but everyone else’s you come in contact with.
Building a positive attitude - what do you do when you want to change for the better but find yourself getting
stuck in negative thought patterns, always expecting the worst? It's a common
mind-set and happens to us all occasionally. The problem happens when you decide
you've had enough of this kind of thinking but it has become so much of a habit
it proves very difficult to change. As far as the law of attraction goes, that
which you think about expands. Negative thoughts have a tendency to multiply,
take hold and take over, sabotaging your efforts to change
However, the good news, is that turning negative thought patterns into positive
ones is a real possibility. It just takes some awareness and a bit of practice,
patience and persistence by focusing on thoughts that are better than the
negative ones until the positive thoughts in turn begin to expand and take over.
Here are some actions you can take on a daily basis to build a positive
Start to develop your self-awareness. Negative thoughts often form below your
conscious level of awareness. You get so used to them being in your head that
you hardly notice anymore. To turn the tide of negativity, you need to develop a
deeper level of self-awareness. Notice where you are putting your focus. Catch
your negative thoughts. Check yourself several times a day. Pay attention first
to how you feel. If you're feeling negative, irritable, pessimistic or stressed,
then choose a thought that feels better, or change your focus to something that
Now that you are aware of them you can challenge and change the negative
thoughts. Believe it or not, it's fairly easy to do, with a little willpower and
concentration. For example, if you find yourself feeling doubtful about being
able to finish your work on time, you might engage in a bit of self-talk like
this: "Okay, so I'm feeling a bit stressed right now, but deep down I know
everything is okay. I'm strong, smart and capable. I'll relax and do my best and
everything will work out fine." What you say to yourself with your inner voice
silently governs everything you do and ultimately how well you do it. Even
though nothing has changed in your outer circumstances, this type of inner
self-talk can result in you thinking and feeling more positively.
Work daily on developing a general positive expectation habit. Each day when you
wake up, change the inner voice that is inside your head. Affirm confidently,
"Today is going to be a great day! Everything will be easy and enjoyable!"
Imagine how that feels. Putting emotion into your affirmations makes them more
Instead of seeing something as an obstacle or problem, see it as an exciting
challenge or an opportunity to learn and grow. Perception is 99% of the game! If
you work at shifting the way you look at the experiences of your life, you'll be
surprised at how quickly your negative thought habits will dissolve. We are
always attracting into our lives more of where we are in our current state of
being. When you are positive you have happy thoughts, say positive things, do
happy and positive things, attracting happy and positive people, and happy and
positive circumstances and your reality is happy. On the other hand, when you're in a negative state of anger, for example, you think angry thoughts, say
angry things, take angry actions and your whole experience is that the whole
world is angry.
The more you change your focus towards emphasizing the positive, the more you
empower yourself and before you know it, you'll be naturally enjoying a much better and more
satisfying quality of life.
Depression - very often, depression is the reaction to a stressful
situation, such as loss of a job, a divorce or death of someone close. In such
cases, it is very important to eat nutrient-dense foods and take extra care of
the immune system, otherwise resistance to disease could be lowered. Equally,
the advice about counteracting the effects of stress in the section on this page
about anxiety and panic attacks should be helpful. If depression is deep, then
assistance must be sought quickly from your doctor or a qualified counsellor.
Sometimes there seems to be no particular reason for feelings of lethargy and
gloom, in which case, a nutritional deficiency could be the cause. Shortage of
B-complex vitamins, especially thiamin, pyridoxine and folic add, or of
magnesium, can produce such feelings. If you are on the contraceptive pill and
feeling generally low, then this is an indication that you are in need of
vitamins B2 and B6. Supplements of pyridoxine will also alleviate premenstrual
It's well worth having blood-sugar levels checked, as hypoglycaemia is a
surprisingly common cause of depression and frequently undiagnosed. Check also
for possible food intolerances, which can often make you feel grim. See under
'Allergies' on one of the links further below, for foods to exclude. Wheat is a
If certain neurotransmitters in the brain are at a low ebb, then depression can
follow. To boost their levels the amino acids that act as their precursors can
be taken, namely tyrosine or L-phenylalanine. Try around 500mg daily for a
fortnight and maintain a good protein intake, especially fish. You will need
extra vitamins B6 and C to aid in the conversion process, so take wheatgerm and
eat plenty of citrus and berry fruits, also fresh salads.
Remember that exercise can shift moods because endorphins, our happiness
hormones, are released into the bloodstream.
Hyperactivity - the prevalence of sweets and soft drinks in vending
machines and at check-out points in supermarkets are a real menace to parents who
are trying to encourage their youngsters to eat healthily. Sugar and artificial
colourings and other additives affect certain mechanisms in the central nervous
system, resulting in behavioural problems in children, especially hyperactivity.
The child is unlikely to be able to concentrate or sit still, is always restless
and maybe aggressive and easily frustrated. It's very important to resist
refined, processed and junk foods and drinks totally, and switch to a wholefood diet, but
even so, it may be some months before a real improvement is noticed, but is well
If the child drinks a lot of milk, a magnesium deficiency is suspect since this
mineral must be in balance with calcium intake. Junk-food diets can also lead to
shortages of B vitamins, especially B1, B3 and B6 and of the minerals zinc and
iron. A daily multivitamin and mineral tablet will therefore boost the
effectiveness of the wholefood programme.
Supplements of evening primrose oil at between 1.5 and 3g daily have led to
improvements in many cases.
Epilepsy - epileptic fits are caused by an electrical
disturbance in certain neurons. They can be very dramatic and frightening to
witness as the sufferer collapses unconscious on to the floor and then goes into
convulsions. In such cases obstacles should be moved out of the way to avoid
injury and the patient laid on his or her side so that the tongue is not
The nutritional status of the patient needs to be checked, as deficiencies may
make seizures more likely. There is a particular connection between low
manganese and convulsions, so the diet needs to be rich in green leafy
vegetables, legumes and whole cereals. Shortages of vitamin B6 and magnesium are
also suspect, which can be corrected by the inclusion of brewer's yeast, yeast
extract, wheat-germ, oily fish, nuts and soya products. If pyridoxine is taken
in supplementary form, then it must be balanced with the other B vitamins,
especially B2 and pantothenic acid.
Note that evening primrose oil should not be taken by epileptics as it may very
occasionally trigger fits.
Since hypoglycaemics are more susceptible to epilepsy, it's crucial that they
follow a natural diet, without any colourings, preservatives or additives, if
you follow any of the menus on the Healthy Diets, from one of the links
further down below, you will be giving yourself the best chance.